We invest much of our time during the spring season keeping our external world clean and organized.
We dust and scrub, declutter, decide what to toss and what to keep, organize closets and various rooms in our homes. We even get rid of ‘winter kill’ in our back yards and gardens.
All of which is very valuable to our well-being.
And I began to wonder what if we spent as much time in our internal world.
What if we spring cleaned our souls?
How would one do that?
I spent a lovely afternoon at a Wellness Show this winter speaking about one simple secret. Two words - Letting Go.
I wanted to share with you what I shared with them and offer you a spring gift: 3 steps to letting go and living well
I am a dweller! I admit it and am not afraid to declare, my name is Kim and I dwell on most things. I dwell on thoughts I have had, thoughts I should have had, things I said, things I should have said, decisions I have made, should have made or shouldn’t have made. I dwell.
For those of you that are dwellers I am sure you know what I mean when I describe it as a merry go round of disastrous “what if and should have” thoughts. A tightness in the stomach and frustration of not being in control.
There is a solution and it is called letting go. We have all heard it. I am sure we have all attempted it and we probably have all said it to someone or to ourselves – “you need to JUST let it go.”
I am here to tell you that it isn’t that easy. Letting go isn’t something you JUST do. It is a process much like moving through a period of grief. It takes intention, effort and time.
Here are 3 steps to consider on your letting go journey:
1) Understand the relationship you have with your experience. What are you holding on to and why?
Before you can let go of something it is important that you understand why you are holding onto it so tightly in the first place. It is important to take the time to explore the experience and the reasons it is taking up space in your reality.
We hold onto so much in our life. People, relationships, memories, material things, beliefs, thoughts and so on.
We cannot let go of any of this if we are not willing to understand our relationship with it and acknowledge that we are holding onto something tightly. Awareness is the key to letting go.
2) Explore a ritual or practice that means something to you.
In my own experience, in order for me to let go of something I have to perform a physical act to represent my intention. This is a very personal process and one that takes effort to determine the best method that will work for you.
Here is one example:
· Write down on a piece of paper everything that comes to mind that you would like to let go of. Don’t think just write. Then burn it, bury it or tear it up.
· Write every time the ‘merry go round’ presents itself. Over time, the spin will get slower and slower. Eventually, it will be a thought that you can easily acknowledge and move on from.
3) Accept that letting go is a commitment and a life long journey
A letting go practice in your life is forever. Why? Because with each breath you take there will be things to let go of. I invite you to view letting go much like you would a healthy life style choice liking eating well or exercising. Make it part of your routine and you will be happier and less dizzy for investing the time.
As you clean out your closets this spring consider letting go of some of that mind clutter as well. With each item you donate or toss, attach a thought or an experience to go with it.
And remember to have fun, the boxes may be heavy but you don’t have to be.